How to deal with fear as you chase your goals in life
In our day-to-day life, we encounter fear when we don’t know how to approach something we want. Our brains recognize how happy we’d be if we got it, but also realize how terrible we would feel if we tried and failed. So in order to keep moving towards our dreams, we have to learn how to deal with fear.
Have you ever been so excited you couldn’t sleep?
I’ve been sleeping for only 2 hours each night since I secured shop space for my business.
My brain literally refuses to shutdown, busy planning everything: from trying to find solutions to the challenges of raising funds on short notice; to criticizing me for a mistake I made during rent negotiations and trying to find a way to correct it down the road; and finally picturing exactly how the place is going to be when everything is sorted.
Now I know there are going to be challenges. I’ve already screwed up in rent negotiation, and I’m struggling to secure credit for a few purchases. I’m also aware that more challenges will show up and test me. But I’m still super excited, and highly confident this will work.
Why? Because I’m doing what I love. Because I’m doing what I’ve always wanted to do since I was a child.
I could do this for a full day, every day of the week, and still not get tired of it. The fact that so many others love it as much as I do is what makes it a great business idea.
It will also work because I’ve done my research. I spent decades being the client, along with so many others who wanted the same thing daily. We would walk whatever distance to get to it, at times even queuing up for it.
I am also aware that there are no guarantees in life. I could fail, just as easily as succeed.
The failing part is scary, and had me terrified for a few minutes after getting the opportunity. I’m pretty much staking everything I own on this; so if I fail then I’ve lost everything and have to start from absolutely zero all over again.
The fear factor
In our day-to-day life, we encounter fear when we don’t know how to approach something we want. Our brains recognize how happy we’d be if we got it, but also realize how terrible we would feel if we tried and failed. So we freeze.
Some of us then take the risk and move forward while others stay frozen in fear.
I don’t want to be afraid. I don’t want to miss out on my dreams and simply look back in regret years later.
That’s why I agreed to pay rent that was much higher than the market price for that location. And that’s why I was willing to start immediately despite a lack of guaranteed capital, as my funds are currently tied up somewhere in the short term.
Risky? Definitely. I’m learning just how hard it is to get credit.
Worth it? Absolutely.
I’ve spent years working for other people, building their businesses and earning them revenue. Even as my own boss in my brand architecture work since last year, I’m working on other people’s businesses.
Now here’s my chance to apply everything I’ve learned to my own child and watch it grow….
So yes I can’t sleep. And I can’t wait for it to take off.
I can’t wait for the challenges either, for I know I will overcome them. (Did i just say that…? Yes I did!)
Every obstacle you face is a test that forces you to get better so as to overcome it. You acquire wisdom for future decisions, connections that helped you solve the issue, and resilience – that precious self belief that you can survive whatever comes your way.
I want to be better. I want to grow. And this is the way for me.
Someone might be asking:
How do you deal with the fear?
- Do thorough research. Learn as much as you can about what you want to do. Study it in depth, look at the operations of those already in the business and have a full picture of what to expect. This is so much easier if you actually love what you want to do. It won’t even feel like research.
2. Expose yourself bit by bit and get feedback. Let a few people in the related industry know what you want to do. You could approach an existing business owner and make inquiries. Or you could approach a client and ask what they think of your ideas or works. Either way you get feedback, which gives you further confirmation if positive, and allows you to refine and grow your ideas.
3. Be prepared. Opportunities don’t come with a weather forecast. If anything, they’re a bit like lightning: a sudden flash and then it’s gone; blink and you miss it. There will always be another flash, but you don’t know exactly when. So you stand ready and take it when it comes.
4. Believe in yourself, believe in the goodness and mercy of our Creator. For the majority of the adults, your current life is a reflection of your past choices. Your results right now, are exactly what you chose them to be. Of course there are things out of our control, and sometimes things take a long time to start going the way they should, but ultimately hard work and dedication pays. Every successful person will tell you that. So choose your path and fight as long and hard as it takes to get to where you want to go.
5. Most importantly, do what you love. This is the biggest point of all. All the above is made so much easier when you have passion for what you’re doing. It’s easy to do the research, get the feedback, go through the hard times, and deal with the fear when what you’re doing resonates with who you are at the core of your being. It’s also easy to seek improvements and want more, to dream bigger.
“Do what you love, and you’ll never work a day in your life “.
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